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| Psychological coping against grooming by Rafa Tellez |
Human
beings have developed over the centuries capabilities and social skills
which uses both to improve their cooperation and social life in pursuit
of the common good, and to influence and manipulate others for their
own benefit. There is everything in this world and we all use a greater and lesser extent our abilities for altruism or for the benefit. The
problem is that sometimes we are not aware of the strategies used by
person or entities willing to influence our behavior so far as they do
for them.Many
of these strategies are based on taking advantage of socially accepted
rules of behavior, we learn from small and they are very good to get
along with others, for example:-You have to fulfill commitments and be consistent (which we think and we have to agree with what we do).-We need to respond well to others and treat them as we treat ourselves.-You have to give importance to behaviors that everyone repeats.-You have to evaluate things very scarce.-You have to be inclined to respond to requests that make us friends or people who seem friendly or sympathetic.-We must accept and comply with the advice we give people authority figures.These
are some of those tips that we have learned from small and guide many
of our behaviors often without us being aware of them, are in principle
good to live in society, the problem is when some people use them to
their advantage.Social
psychologist Robert Cialdini in his study of influence processes
identifies these basic psychological principles underlying these
processes and some of the explicit manipulation tactics that take
advantage of them, for example:1
Strategies that rely on the commitment-consistency principle: The
manipulator is based on taking advantage of our ideas about to be
fulfilled commitments and consistent, with tactics such as:1.1
Tactical Foot in the Door: The manipulator engages us with a proposal
recently engaged and asks us to do something inexpensive, then we ask
new shares and to be consistent with our commitment we will be guided to
do. The victim of tampering is suspected or feel any pressure.1.2
Tactical Base Ball: The manipulator makes an attractive offer and get
the victim to commit, once obtained the commitment, the handler changes
the conditions of the offer, which is not as beneficial, although
normally remains committed foot and the victim complies. Consider
for instance some commercial bargains or week, when we decided to buy
these deals may no longer be valid, but the weight of our decision to
buy a less continuous and advantageous.Two
strategies that are based on the principle of reciprocity: The handler
takes advantage of our spirit to correspond to everyone who does us a
favor or offers a gift with tactics how are you:2.1
Tactics that's not all: The manipulator service offers a gift or low
value (or high value if you expect much benefit), once we have accepted
that gift us a request that we will be committed to reciprocate. Sometimes
you do not need to give away anything, just the seller to take a lot of
effort and time messing dedicating entire store for you, that you'll
buy something in return.2.2
Tactical slammed in the face: The manipulator asks us something very
expensive you know we're going to deny, then asks a favor simpler (we
really thought the call) and we will have to grant it to compensate for
denying the help at first. This
technique is widely used in negotiations where it begins "bluffing" to
download after the demands and create the appearance that both parties
give up something.3. Strategies
based on the principle of social validation: The manipulator convinces
his victim leveraging the common idea that if something is commonly
accepted that is so ...Tactic 3.1: What makes a majority. Encourages
our feelings of identity and seeks our imitation of what everyone else
does, with arguments like that is normal everywhere, that is, two
million people have already bought etc ...3.2 Tactics. List
of people like: The manipulator we dealt with his claims by presenting a
list of people who have already entered, for example: "this and that
neighbors have signed with us."To
make a long this post, I close here for now, I hope your comments and
contributions (principle of reciprocity: as I have given you something, I
hope you do something), just kidding (not). Society
and how it works is not so bad, but if recapacitamos on our
vulnerabilities and abuses we prevent things will go a little better.That said, if you want to continue talking about it: you just have to say.
