Psychological coping against grooming

Psychological coping against grooming by Rafa Tellez

Human beings have developed over the centuries capabilities and social skills which uses both to improve their cooperation and social life in pursuit of the common good, and to influence and manipulate others for their own benefit. There is everything in this world and we all use a greater and lesser extent our abilities for altruism or for the benefit. The problem is that sometimes we are not aware of the strategies used by person or entities willing to influence our behavior so far as they do for them.Many of these strategies are based on taking advantage of socially accepted rules of behavior, we learn from small and they are very good to get along with others, for example:-You have to fulfill commitments and be consistent (which we think and we have to agree with what we do).-We need to respond well to others and treat them as we treat ourselves.-You have to give importance to behaviors that everyone repeats.-You have to evaluate things very scarce.-You have to be inclined to respond to requests that make us friends or people who seem friendly or sympathetic.-We must accept and comply with the advice we give people authority figures.These are some of those tips that we have learned from small and guide many of our behaviors often without us being aware of them, are in principle good to live in society, the problem is when some people use them to their advantage.Social psychologist Robert Cialdini in his study of influence processes identifies these basic psychological principles underlying these processes and some of the explicit manipulation tactics that take advantage of them, for example:1 Strategies that rely on the commitment-consistency principle: The manipulator is based on taking advantage of our ideas about to be fulfilled commitments and consistent, with tactics such as:1.1 Tactical Foot in the Door: The manipulator engages us with a proposal recently engaged and asks us to do something inexpensive, then we ask new shares and to be consistent with our commitment we will be guided to do. The victim of tampering is suspected or feel any pressure.1.2 Tactical Base Ball: The manipulator makes an attractive offer and get the victim to commit, once obtained the commitment, the handler changes the conditions of the offer, which is not as beneficial, although normally remains committed foot and the victim complies. Consider for instance some commercial bargains or week, when we decided to buy these deals may no longer be valid, but the weight of our decision to buy a less continuous and advantageous.Two strategies that are based on the principle of reciprocity: The handler takes advantage of our spirit to correspond to everyone who does us a favor or offers a gift with tactics how are you:2.1 Tactics that's not all: The manipulator service offers a gift or low value (or high value if you expect much benefit), once we have accepted that gift us a request that we will be committed to reciprocate. Sometimes you do not need to give away anything, just the seller to take a lot of effort and time messing dedicating entire store for you, that you'll buy something in return.2.2 Tactical slammed in the face: The manipulator asks us something very expensive you know we're going to deny, then asks a favor simpler (we really thought the call) and we will have to grant it to compensate for denying the help at first. This technique is widely used in negotiations where it begins "bluffing" to download after the demands and create the appearance that both parties give up something.3. Strategies based on the principle of social validation: The manipulator convinces his victim leveraging the common idea that if something is commonly accepted that is so ...Tactic 3.1: What makes a majority. Encourages our feelings of identity and seeks our imitation of what everyone else does, with arguments like that is normal everywhere, that is, two million people have already bought etc ...3.2 Tactics. List of people like: The manipulator we dealt with his claims by presenting a list of people who have already entered, for example: "this and that neighbors have signed with us."To make a long this post, I close here for now, I hope your comments and contributions (principle of reciprocity: as I have given you something, I hope you do something), just kidding (not). Society and how it works is not so bad, but if recapacitamos on our vulnerabilities and abuses we prevent things will go a little better.That said, if you want to continue talking about it: you just have to say.